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Cassiee and Marriage 101: What is a perfect husband?[/b]
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July 23, 9:41 PM
We do not often hear of the perfect marriage these days, particularly as committed and living together are replacing "to have and to hold as long as we both shall live."
But many of us still believe in love and marriage. In Tinseltown, which is constantly flashing across our screens, we are looking at a world of too much cheating. But it is not just faithfulness that makes for the perfect husband.
What is a perfect husband? He is a man of quality, values, and respect.
For all of those looking for love, I think it helps to have an image in our minds of what to look for in a relationship. When thinking of role models, think of qualities. And to further set the visualization process in motion, think of someone whom you believe is the perfect husband.
Tinamarie Bernard, our Modern Love Examiner, says that Mensch qualities are what make for good marriage material. (Two of her links are below.)
My list includes devotion, integrity, generosity, commitment, honesty, and selflessness – and to all of these add a sense of humor. Who are the men or partnerships that I have come to admire?
Devotion, Pierce Brosnan: My all time favorite model husband is Pierce Brosnan. He has enough confidence to be committed in marriage. His first wife was 12 years older and he adopted her children. He remained a family man after Cassie’s sad death. And the man who could have instantly married any woman in the world -- waited until he found love again with his wife, environmental journalist and actress Keely Shaye Smith. The Catholic marriage took place at an ancient cathedral.
Integrity, Tim Russert: Even his rivals loved him. Whenever Tim Russert conducted an interview, it was done with integrity. Regardless of his own opinions, he conveyed respect. Tim Russert
Generosity , Tyler Perry: .When he learned of 65 day campers ejected from the Philadelphia-area Valley Swim Club he stepped in. He is treating the children to Disney World. These are his words: "I'm sending these kids to Disney World and then to a Disney water park. I want them to know that for every act of evil that a few people will throw at you, there are millions more who will do something kind for them. This is all about the kids. So, thank you for letting me do this. Thank you so much. Blackspin.com
Committed, Paul Newman: His years with Joanne Woodward were like a fairy tale; (I am ignoring the gossip book.) We met at a Yale Commencement walking to the old campus for the ceremony. There is where I saw his genuine humility. It was only when we stopped for a moment to exchange a few plesanatries that it happened. In the middle of cloudless sky, the stars came out and twinkled blue. “Hi, I’m Paul,” he said, extending his hand. Paul Newman
Honesty, Harry Markopolos was the Bernard Madoff Whistleblower. He is a humble man who pursued honesty for 10 years. If only the Securities and Exchange Commission had listened. Despite being ignored by the SEC, he pursued the truth. online.wsj.com
Selfless and loving, Professor Randy Pausch taught entertainment technology at Carnegie Mellon. He inspired students to design, create, soar within the world of virtual reality. Knowing that he would not survive pancreatic cancer, Dr. Pausch gave the last lecture on September 20, 2007. He spoke to his children and spoke of his wife with absolute devotion. Randy Pausch
The secret to life-long love? When couples who have been together for half a century are asked the secret to life- long love, their answers are often the same.
* Speak kind words.
* Laugh often.
* Forgive always.
* See the glass as half full instead of half empty.
Those who live like this today are like magnets -- they attract joy.
In terms of the perfect marriage, perhaps we should be looking for mensches:
* Modern Love 101: if marriage is the perfect game, how do you know your partner is ready to play? and
* To love a Mensch means you must strive to be one
Or as Relationship Examiner Kristen Houghton suggests, a good marriage partner is a true friend, someone who will bring us life long love in The friendship marriage.
Copyright 2009 Rita Watson
www.ritawatson.com
www.examiner.com/x-2108-Love-and-Marriage-Examiner~y2009m7d23-Love-and-Marriag-101--What-is-the-perfect-husband
July 23, 9:41 PM
We do not often hear of the perfect marriage these days, particularly as committed and living together are replacing "to have and to hold as long as we both shall live."
But many of us still believe in love and marriage. In Tinseltown, which is constantly flashing across our screens, we are looking at a world of too much cheating. But it is not just faithfulness that makes for the perfect husband.
What is a perfect husband? He is a man of quality, values, and respect.
For all of those looking for love, I think it helps to have an image in our minds of what to look for in a relationship. When thinking of role models, think of qualities. And to further set the visualization process in motion, think of someone whom you believe is the perfect husband.
Tinamarie Bernard, our Modern Love Examiner, says that Mensch qualities are what make for good marriage material. (Two of her links are below.)
My list includes devotion, integrity, generosity, commitment, honesty, and selflessness – and to all of these add a sense of humor. Who are the men or partnerships that I have come to admire?
Devotion, Pierce Brosnan: My all time favorite model husband is Pierce Brosnan. He has enough confidence to be committed in marriage. His first wife was 12 years older and he adopted her children. He remained a family man after Cassie’s sad death. And the man who could have instantly married any woman in the world -- waited until he found love again with his wife, environmental journalist and actress Keely Shaye Smith. The Catholic marriage took place at an ancient cathedral.
Integrity, Tim Russert: Even his rivals loved him. Whenever Tim Russert conducted an interview, it was done with integrity. Regardless of his own opinions, he conveyed respect. Tim Russert
Generosity , Tyler Perry: .When he learned of 65 day campers ejected from the Philadelphia-area Valley Swim Club he stepped in. He is treating the children to Disney World. These are his words: "I'm sending these kids to Disney World and then to a Disney water park. I want them to know that for every act of evil that a few people will throw at you, there are millions more who will do something kind for them. This is all about the kids. So, thank you for letting me do this. Thank you so much. Blackspin.com
Committed, Paul Newman: His years with Joanne Woodward were like a fairy tale; (I am ignoring the gossip book.) We met at a Yale Commencement walking to the old campus for the ceremony. There is where I saw his genuine humility. It was only when we stopped for a moment to exchange a few plesanatries that it happened. In the middle of cloudless sky, the stars came out and twinkled blue. “Hi, I’m Paul,” he said, extending his hand. Paul Newman
Honesty, Harry Markopolos was the Bernard Madoff Whistleblower. He is a humble man who pursued honesty for 10 years. If only the Securities and Exchange Commission had listened. Despite being ignored by the SEC, he pursued the truth. online.wsj.com
Selfless and loving, Professor Randy Pausch taught entertainment technology at Carnegie Mellon. He inspired students to design, create, soar within the world of virtual reality. Knowing that he would not survive pancreatic cancer, Dr. Pausch gave the last lecture on September 20, 2007. He spoke to his children and spoke of his wife with absolute devotion. Randy Pausch
The secret to life-long love? When couples who have been together for half a century are asked the secret to life- long love, their answers are often the same.
* Speak kind words.
* Laugh often.
* Forgive always.
* See the glass as half full instead of half empty.
Those who live like this today are like magnets -- they attract joy.
In terms of the perfect marriage, perhaps we should be looking for mensches:
* Modern Love 101: if marriage is the perfect game, how do you know your partner is ready to play? and
* To love a Mensch means you must strive to be one
Or as Relationship Examiner Kristen Houghton suggests, a good marriage partner is a true friend, someone who will bring us life long love in The friendship marriage.
Copyright 2009 Rita Watson
www.ritawatson.com